by Author Darrell Freeman Jr. 10/19/2014
Just by looking around, you can tell that things are so much different than they were in the past. The biggest difference is the role men play in society, our homes, politics and business. Over the years, things have changed and way too many men are no longer active in their family’s lives. It seems as if men have pushed forward in the business world and left their families behind.
As a man, I’m so disgusted by our lack of commitment to our spouse and our children. From the beginning of time we were the Providers and the Protectors. We were actively involved in society, the Civil Rights Marches, Politics, Business and at home. However, I am sad to say that with the change that time has brought, also came separation. And family members have turned against each other.
So many men have walked out on their families, leaving the mothers to be both the mother and the father. Often finding it difficult to teach their boys how to be men.
Fellas, ask yourself this… What does a single mother tell her son when he finally asks that question… “Where is my daddy at?”
And… “Why are you so hard on me with ‘The Respect Women Lecture’ and drilling me on how to appreciate women, when my own father turned his back on both me and you? Why should I be a man, when he didn’t have too?”
Women face these issues everyday. Our kids are lacking a father to teach them about life and how to protect their families. So women learn to be independent, because they have no choice. For so long, they have been taking care of their families on their own; replacing the men in society and ultimately throwing us by the waste side.
Now, on the other side of the fence, there are active fathers and active men in society and so often, their accomplishments are overlooked or ignored. Some men take care of their families without a mother or spouse. Yet and still, they get no acknowledgement or appreciation. In fact, when a woman takes on that same role, she’s perceived as an Angel or a dedicated mother. Now, there is nothing wrong with that, but as a man, he’s told that’s what is expected of him. He doesn’t get the same credit. The one day of the year that fathers are honored, is overshadowed by Mother’s Day.
This leads me to examine the role men play in society. It’s true not enough men step up to the plate. But we must always honor and appreciate those who do take care of their responsibilities. Because so many men lack the love they should have for their families, women are replacing men in society and in their homes. Independent and single mothers are doing it all. Realizing that they don’t need a man. It may be true but there’s no satisfaction like the joy you feel when you know you have a loving and dedicated man or father.
But we can’t blame women, it is men who need to prove that we do belong and that we will be there for our families. We need to rebuild that joy our ladies felt when they knew we were there for them. We need to show society that we are dedicated and strong men. We need to teach our sons, nephews, brothers and cousins that a man takes care of his family. A man ‘Mans-up’ up to his responsibilities. A man loves his family so much that he will work his but off to make sure they are taken care of.
It’s time men step up and realize our women shouldn’t do it alone. We need to stay involved in our families, like men. There’s no reason to run away from your responsibility. The future has many unknown circumstances. Let’s make a future that men can say they helped produce, by molding and constructing the mind of our Leaders of Tomorrow, which is our kids.
Without strong leadership, our kids’ future looks really bleak. If we, as men, step up, we could and will make a difference! But we have to step up! We must be willing to admit we have made a mistakes and we must be honest enough to except it and be man enough to fix those mistakes! We must begin to lead by example; our kids are watching us!. The clock is ticking! Men in society need to step up! And remember, only a Coward runs from his responsibilities.
We, as men, need to rebuild our role as Honorable Men. That starts, first, with our family. Our families should be businesses. Let’s keep it thriving and pushing forward for success. With our spouse as an equal Business Partner. How can society function without us doing our part, as men? Our men overlooked in society because so many of us run from our responsibilities? And so many of us don’t know the difference between a man and a boy?
A man versus a boy
A man does what he’s supposed to do; while a boy does what you tell him to do
A man admits when he’s wrong; while a boy makes excuses
A man takes care of his responsibilities; while a boy runs away from it
A man strives to better himself every day; while a boy throws his life away
A man leads by example; while a boy is a follower
Although a man goes through tough times, he still smiles and maintains; while a boy will run at the first sign of trouble
A man looks for a woman who’s honest, loving, trust worthy and who shares
similar qualities as his mother; while a boy looks for love on the outside
A man wants a woman that will grow & enhance who he is, as well as show others that she’s an equal partner in their relationship; while a boy just wants a one night stand or an easy lay
A man will commit to the one he knows is his true love;
While a boy will string her along
A man loves from his heart;
while a boy loves from between his legs
A man is willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy his woman; while a boy only wants to satisfy himself
A man plans for the future; while a boy lives his everyday life
A man constantly challenges himself to do bigger and better things; while a boy is comfortable living from check to check
A man will give all he has; while a boy will give what he has
A man will call on the Lord’s name; while a boy will call his mother
A man can resist peer pressure; while a boy will fall victim to it
A man will support his children, even if he and his partner have separated; while a boy will walk away, because he and his partner are no longer together
There are so many differences between a boy and a man…
A man is ready and willing to take on the world, with the determination
that he will succeed, as long as he has a strong woman by his side; but a boy will run from commitment & has no drive to do better
A man will put a plan together; while a boy will just wing it
A man knows who he is; while a boy is still searching
Until a boy is ready to become a man, he continues to act like a child
Every boy eventually becomes a man; but when & where is his decision