Happiness is a state of mind; not a state of financial well-being. If you are unhappy with little, you are likely to be unhappy with much; because money is not the key to happiness. In fact, it comes with a whole new set of problems and stresses. It is difficult to know who your real friends are and even if your mate really loves you or your money. The Tax Man is after you for their 50%, which you need to find ways to shelter and so is the Thief, the Robber and the person who would kidnap your kids. Your privacy will be limited. People will smile in your face and stab you in your back, out of greed and jealousy. Your kids are more likely to become spoiled rotten brats. You can become consumed with keeping what you have, which can lead to more work and less attention to your family and relationships. Also, friends and family will come out of the woodwork and put pressure on you to give to them, what you have worked hard for. There will also be constant requests for you to donate to this and to that and so on… It can all lead to drugs and alcohol, which you can afford on a major scale!
I know I have created a grim picture and that many will say “I’ll take the problems of the rich over the problems of the poor, any day.” Many will say “I’d rather be rich and miserable, than poor and miserable.” But I say that misery is misery and one is no better than the other. A rich man who is miserable, can be just as miserable as a poor man who is miserable and even more so. Just look at the tabloids and watch Entertainment News. Note the suicides, drug problems, drama and even murder that goes on among the rich and famous. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with being rich and wouldn’t mind being rich myself. But I have no illussion that becoming rich will make me any happier than I am right now. I have learned that moving to another city or state does not bring me any more happiness, either. I thank God that I have learned that true happiness is a spiritual matter and therefore, nothing physical has any impact on it. It is a matter of things unseen, like faith that everything will be ok, which leads to a ‘Peace of mind’ and like the love I feel for others and that I know my God has for me. Also, grattitude and appreciation for the things I have vs. envy, jealousy and greed for the things I do not. Ambition is good, but it must be tempered with a certain level of contintment. How can you enjoy today, if you are constantly worried about tomorrow? It is good to plan for tomorrow, but let today’s troubles be sufficient for today and worry about tomorrow, once it gets here.
Once you learn how to be happy with what you have and with where you are; only then will you be able to be happy where ever you go and with whatever you achieve. Become happy, first and then make the move and make the money. Don’t buy into the idea that once you make the move, you will make the money and then you will, somehow, suddenly be happy. And do not confuse the moments of temporary bliss that come with the purchase of a new car, for example, with happiness. If you have a unhappy spirit, then that temporary bliss will slowly fade, over a period of days or weeks, right back into the unhappiness you felt before the purchase. Nothing physical can impact your happiness one way or the other. It is a spiritual thing; it is a mental thing and it is a heart thing…